“The Thing or Person You Love the Most Isn’t Always What You Need”

Love is one of the most powerful forces in life, but it can also cloud our judgment. We’re often told that if we love something deeply—whether it’s a relationship, a career, or even a lifestyle—we should fight to keep it. But love alone isn’t enough to make something right for you. Sometimes, the things we hold onto the tightest are the very things that prevent us from growing, healing, or finding the fulfillment we truly need.

This realization is painful because love creates strong emotional ties. Walking away from something or someone you love might feel like a betrayal of your own heart, but sometimes, love and alignment are two different things. Just because something was once good for you doesn’t mean it still is. Love should add to your life, not deplete it. If something is holding you back, making you question yourself, or consistently draining your energy, it might be time to reconsider whether love alone is enough. Here are some ways to dig deeper:

• Ask yourself: Does this bring me peace or just familiarity? If something constantly drains you, it may not be right for you.

• Write a pros and cons list. Seeing things on paper can help bring clarity to tough decisions.

• Talk to a neutral third party. Sometimes, an outside perspective can help confirm what you already know deep down.

• Trust your instincts. If something feels off, listen to that feeling—it’s there for a reason.

• Give yourself time. If you’re unsure, step away temporarily and see how you feel without it.

Choosing to walk away from something you love can feel counterintuitive, but it’s sometimes the healthiest choice you can make. Love should lift you, not weigh you down. What you need for your well-being and growth might not always be what your heart wants, but in the long run, choosing yourself will lead you to what truly aligns with your life’s purpose.

- Intisar Farah